“Talk to Me, You Handsome Man,” Part 1

The number-two need husbands most frequently mention may surprise you. It’s admiration. That’s right, ladies. Your husband has a very real need to know you admire him. God points to the importance of this need in Ephesians 5:33b:

and [let] the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband—that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates him and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly. (Amp.)

 That’s quite a mouthful, isn’t it?

The reason God puts such an emphasis on this is because it is so vitally important to a man. He needs admiration to function properly as the mighty spiritual warrior God created him to be.

Have you ever noticed the way little boys will show off for little girls? If so, you know this need to be admired surfaces early and continues right into adolescence. Teenage boys go to great lengths to impress any girl who happens to be watching. Some women simply think such attempts at admiration-evoking are just a male “pride thing.” But they’re wrong. The need for admiration is a God-designed facet of the male ego. And that ego, when properly fueled, will propel and energize a man to do the things God has called him to do.

Be assured, Ladies, nothing will light your man’s fire any faster than to have you, the woman he loves, tell him how great he is and that he’s your knight in shining armor. When that happens, he’ll be ready to conquer the world. When it doesn’t happen, he’ll become a target for the Devil.

You see, this is an area that is frequently exploited by Satan to get men involved in extramarital affairs. If a man is getting nothing but criticism at home and then goes to the office where a beautiful woman treats him like he’s superman, he’s ripe for the picking.

Remember that and don’t let the enemy deceive you into focusing on what is wrong with your man. Don’t let him magnify those faults until they’re all you can see. Instead, choose to begin focusing on admiring those things that are right.

A word of warning is in order here, Ladies. Although it is vital you express your admiration for your husband, don’t ever make empty, flattering comments. He will detect the insincerity of them and they will drive a wedge between you.

Be genuine. Let the admiration emanate from your heart. If you have a hard time finding qualities you admire about your husband right now, then ask the Holy Spirit to show you some. They may be hard to see, but they’re there.

I know a lady, for example, who absolutely hated the fact that her husband was so hardheaded.  He wouldn’t listen to anything anybody had to say. Then one day the Spirit of the Lord showed her that what appeared to be hardheadedness would actually become determination once he received direction from the Lord.

From then on, that wife saw her husband in a whole new light. She recognized the gift of God in him and it enabled her to admire something very important about him.

God will do the same thing for you if you’ll trust Him to reveal things to you about your husband. I promise you, you’ll be amazed at all the wonderful qualities you’ll find.

Tune in each day this week for more information on what these top needs are for men and women.

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About Mac Hammond

Mac Hammond is senior pastor of Living Word Christian Center, a nondenominational church located in Brooklyn Park (a suburb of Minneapolis), Minnesota. Pastor Hammond also hosts the Winner's Minute and the Winner's Way television broadcasts and has authored several internationally distributed books . Mac Hammond is broadly acclaimed for his ability to apply the principles of the Bible to practical situations and the challenges of daily living. Mac Hammond graduated from Virginia Military Institute in 1965 with a Bachelor's degree in English. Upon graduation, he entered the Air Force with a regular officer's commission and reported for pilot training at Moody Air Force Base in Georgia. Mac received his wings in November 1966, and subsequently served two tours of duty in Southeast Asia, accumulating 198 combat missions. He was honorably discharged in 1970 with the rank of Captain. Between 1970 and 1980, Mac was involved in varying capacities in the general aviation industry including ownership of a successful air cargo business serving the Midwestern United States. A business acquisition brought Mac and his wife Lynne Hammond to Minneapolis where they ultimately founded Living Word Christian Center in 1980.

2 responses to ““Talk to Me, You Handsome Man,” Part 1”

  1. Shirley Tuttle says :

    I did yesterday let him know how much I appreciate him an his effort in never giving up no matter what we face and it seems to have a effect. My husband must have it on his mind even today because he is asking me what I would like and what I need from the store; which he never did before! Also he is in a good mood and he said; I would pick you up a husband if I could because he said he has been a not so smart husband, I replied no you will not find one as smart as you, he smiled and off to the store he went. To me it is the little things in life that are so precious.

    Thank you Pastor Mac

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